Do not get emotionally attached to someone who is not committed to you. Do not fall in love foolishly and carelessly. Apply caution and always protect your heart and emotional wellbeing.
You are not helpless. Cling to God and His word and always pray to God for help, and let the Holy Spirit lead you. Avoid unnecessary heartbreak. Do not allow selfish hunters deplete and drain you in relationships that are abusive and devoid of love.
Sin is very deceitful and can seem like the right way. It can feel good and give pleasure, but at the end brings great destruction to the lover of sin.
There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
David. When David was looking at Bathsheba, another man’s wife, it gave him pleasure but it was a pleasure that had been poisoned by death but at that point in time, He did not care. Emotion had taken over the voice of reason. Immediately he saw her bathing, and unclothed, he should have torn his eyes away because she was married. Also, she was not his wife. God does not want us to entertain ungodly desires and cravings. No, need to admire and lust after a married woman or someone that we are not married to. Emotion overpowered David. Later, he took the pleasure to another level and committed adultery. Remember that Jesus said
But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:28
God later passed judgement on David, and death came to his doorstep. Wining and dining with sin, is sleeping with death and fellowship with the grave.
Samson. Samson had a great destiny and anointing from birth, but he lost focus. He fell in love and lost his senses, and emotion overpowered logic, reason and God’s will. Never lose focus.
Lesson to learn
The devils tries to derail us and our destinies by introducing ungodly pleasures that can seem irresistible. If we are focused and determined to love God at all cost, we will overcome harsh temptations and fulfil destiny.
Jesus was tempted. There were so many things around Jesus that could have enticed Him and derailed Him if He was not focused. He set His heart on loving God and experiencing God’s glory and anointing daily.
The anointing is not cheap, and we must pay the price. The anointing is not for those who fall in love foolishly and indiscriminately without caution. Most of the time, what people call falling in love is falling in lust for a season and later when the so-called love clears from their eyes, they end up hating each other with passion. This proves that it was never falling in love, but emotionalism and sacrificing logic, clear thoughts and reason.
The only reasonable love is falling in love with your wife or husband. But try to make sure that that wife is God ordained. Some people have married other peoples spouses and ended up in divorce and great sorrow. Some even lost their lives. People have married their enemies.
The goal of our Christian experience is to live in God’s perfect will, and experience His glory, daily. For us to achieve this, we need to overcome temptations and distractions. Some men and women have been, and will still be introduced into your life to tempt you, derail you and hijack your destiny.
Determine now, to overcome and pray to God that your faith will not fail you. Also pray that not to be led into temptation. Reject the pleasures of sin and realise that they are deceptions from the Devil to make you fall.
Delilah was a deception and a trap. She did not love Samson, but Samson was blinded by emotionalism and blind love. Blind love is a deception, and the will of God is the truth. The Lord spoke to me some days and said to me, “focus on commitment and not emotions. If you listen to your emotions they will overpower your commitment.” Do not let emotions and illogical tendencies kill you or your destiny, You have no business falling in love, just for the sake of falling in love or falling in love to commit sin.
Fall in love with God’s will, and within God’s will, you will find your God ordained spouse that God prepared for you to help you fulfil destiny. In God’s perfect will, you will not find a Delilah that will sell you, betray you and kill you.
Reject ungodly pleasures and the pleasures of sin and embrace the perfect will of God.
Message about how to respond when you are experiencing the pain and affliction of rejection and being unloved.
Jacob Marries Leah and Rachel
After Jacob had stayed with him for a whole month, 15 Laban said to him, “Just because you are a relative of mine, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me what your wages should be.” 16 Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah had weak[a] eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful. 18 Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, “I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.” 19 Laban said, “It’s better that I give her to you than to some other man. Stay here with me.” 20 So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her. 21 Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife. My time is completed, and I want to make love to her.” 22 So Laban brought together all the people of the place and gave a feast. 23 But when evening came, he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and Jacob made love to her. 24 And Laban gave his servant Zilpah to his daughter as her attendant. 25 When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?” 26 Laban replied, “It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one. 27 Finish this daughter’s bridal week; then we will give you the younger one also, in return for another seven years of work.” 28 And Jacob did so. He finished the week with Leah, and then Laban gave him his daughter Rachel to be his wife. 29 Laban gave his servant Bilhah to his daughter Rachel as her attendant. 30 Jacob made love to Rachel also, and his love for Rachel was greater than his love for Leah. And he worked for Laban another seven years. Jacob’s Children 31 When the Lord saw that Leah was not loved, he enabled her to conceive, but Rachel remained childless. 32 Leah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Reuben,[b] for she said, “It is because the Lord has seen my misery. Surely my husband will love me now.” 33 She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “Because the Lord heard that I am not loved, he gave me this one too.” So she named him Simeon.[c] 34 Again she conceived, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “Now at last my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons.” So he was named Levi.[d] 35 She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “This time I will praise the Lord.” So she named him Judah.[e] Then she stopped having children.
Don’t build toxic relationships. A relationship that you cannot express yourself in, is a toxic relationship.
A healthy relationship will allow you to express your hurts, disappointments, and expectations. If you are upset, the other person allows you to express yourself without counterattack or shutting off with anger, verbal assaults or silence. You should also allow the other person to express his or her hurts without negative reactions. You cannot dictate to someone how to feel especially if the person is hurt and something triggered it.
A healthy relationship will allow you to talk through problems and work things out. Any relationship that does not allow you to talk through problems and creatively resolve conflicts is a toxic relationship.
A relationship where the offender refuses dialogue, and conditions for peace to be negotiated and met, is a toxic relationship.
Biblical Example and Case Study Matthew 18: 15
15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.
1. An aggressor must be willing to change and embrace peace. If not, he has failed the conditions for peace.
Hagar and Sarah
The Angel of the Lord appeared Hagar and commanded her to go and submit to her mistress. Hagar had introduced toxicity into the relationship and there was simply no need for that. Sarah dealt harshly with her and fled fled Sarah’s presence. When she left the relationship died but God intervened, and she changed her ways and conditions for peace was met.
An aggressor must change for peace to reign. There was no way that Sarah was supposed to put up with abuse and die of heart ache just to please Sarah or for peace to reign. It was not a case of Sarah please forgive Hagar, it was a case of Hagar please repent, behave yourself and give peace a chance.
If you are a Hagar, bringing unnecessary toxicity into a good relationship, please stop. Repent and give peace a chance.
Messages and Revelations from Christ to the Church
The Lord spoke to me and said, “ Jesus groomed Himself to hear from the Father.
Jesus had an excellent relationship with the Father, and the Holy Spirit when He lived on earth. He was filled with the Holy Spirit and was constantly led by the Holy Spirit. Those who are led by the Spirit of God, are the sons of God.
Do you groom yourself to hear from the Holy Spirit? Do you spend time reading the word of God, and fellowshipping with God in prayer, praise, thanksgiving and worship?
Do you really crave the gifts of the Holy Spirit, or are you content with mediocrity? Do you have passion for the presence of God? If you do not, start grooming yourself today. Jesus is knocking at the door of your heart.
It is not possible to be a victorious, successful Christian without the voice of the Holy Spirit, leading you and guiding you especially in very important decisions. The word of God is key and word if God is made up of the written word and the voice of the Holy Spirit.
He is constantly talking to us to help us, guide us, comfort us, uplift us and warn us. We simply need to learn how to hear and discern His voice and walk with Him.
Revelation 3:21 talks of those who are victorious and the rewards of being victorious.
To the one who is victorious, I will give the right to sit with me on my throne, just as I was victorious and sat down with my Father on his throne. Revelation 3:21
We are called to be spiritual warriors and to be victorious believers and there is no way we can do this by our own power and voice or thoughts. Our thoughts sometimes deceive and mislead us because we live in a fallen world where Satan operates.
God wants us to groom ourselves to Hear His voice through His Holy Spirit as He speaks from Heaven.
May you always be led by the Holy Spirit, to the glory of God in Jesus name.