Be Careful

Broken people who were in fact broken by others need to heal. The Lord can heal all psychological and emotional wounds including the deepest and darkest.

If you are broken, give yourself time to heal before rushing into another relationship. If you do not do that, you might in fact be creating a soup that can boil others. You might break others without even wanting to. The reason is that you were not emotionally healthy or whole enough to trust, sacrifice and love again.

If you meet a broken person who wants a relationship with you, be very careful. It will be wise if you can recognize the red flags and signs of emotional unavailability and draw back. Give him or her a chance to heal and grow before embarking on a fruitless journey.

Guard your hearts jealousy – there are so many damaged and broken people out there and they were all damaged and broken by humans not aliens! Don’t be a victim.

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  • Thankfully God wants a relationship with us despite the fact we’re broken. He doesn’t cast us off like a kid throwing away a broken toy.

    • laurabon

      I am actually talking about putting your heart into a very bad relationship. I am talking about inner circle. The eggs represent your heart and your heart can only be handed over to people who are close to you.
      The Bible advises us to guard our hearts jealousy, The advice is this – do not have close intimate relationships with people who do not love you and have shown signs of being capable of causing you great harm and damage. The Lord Himself told me that His inner circle was filled with the right people – people who loved Him.
Overall, this advice comes from
      1. Warnings that the Lord gave me in the past
2. Personal experiences of how not being careful and letting damaged people who had no intention of changing become intimate and close with me harmed me greatly. You might end up paying the price with your life – I have seen that happen over and over again. People simply ignore red flags
3. Personal experiences of the people I have ministered to and how their inability to protect themselves caused them great harm and even mental illness.
      Thank you so much for the beautiful contribution. Blessings

      • The Lord Himself described His inner circle as “evil”- “if you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children”. They all abandoned Him in His hour of need. Peter denied Him and devilish Judas betrayed Him. None of us are naturally right and loving of God, and even having been called by Him, we remain naturally evil. Anything right in us is a work of the Holy Spirit, not the filthy rags of our own self righteousness.

        • laurabon

          Judas was the only one he described as a devil. The rest were good and loved Him dearly but of course we are weak as humans. They acted out of fear – they did not form a habit of victimizing Him and abusing Him and His love. I understand your points but I still think we should have boundaries in relationships and protect ourselves. That is my own personal conviction and I have also done a lot of research by reading works of top psychologist and psychiatrists. These arguments are supported by empirical evidence. However, we are all free to live as we wish. Blessings 💕

          • If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
            Matthew 7:11 NIV
            https://matthew.bible/matthew-7-11

            We are free to pick and choose our relationships, as is God. Which makes it all the more astounding that He would choose evil people like me! All our righteousness is like filthy rags- we need Jesus’ righteousness, not self-righteousness.

  • Very helpful advice

  • Amen! This is so true. This spoke to me directly and has encouraged me. We need to build safe boundaries and continue to share the gospel of Christ with them, pray for them & let our Father do the rest. We all were once broken and in some ways maybe still and if it wasn’t for God and also those who He had allowed us to meet along the road to help encourage us, pray for us that helped healed us during that time of despair where would we have been today? 🙂 God bless & more grace.

    • laurabon

      I am actually talking about putting your heart into a very bad relationship. I am talking about inner circle. The eggs represent your heart and your heart can only be handed over to people who are close to you.
      The Bible advises us to guard our hearts jealousy, The advice is this – do not have close intimate relationships with people who do not love you and have shown signs of being capable of causing you great harm and damage. The Lord Himself told me that His inner circle was filled with the right people – people who loved Him.
Overall, this advice comes from
      1. Warnings that the Lord gave me in the past
2. Personal experiences of how not being careful and letting damaged people who had no intention of changing become intimate and close with me harmed me greatly. You might end up paying the price with your life – I have seen that happen over and over again. People simply ignore red flags
3. Personal experiences of the people I have ministered to and how their inability to protect themselves caused them great harm and even mental illness.

      Yes, we truly need to build safe boundaries

      Thank you so much for the beautiful contribution. Blessings

      • I truly understand what you’re referring to sis and I need to go back to the Word where it relates to guarding your heart jealousy. I know in Proverbs 4:23 says to keep our heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life. Yup, we need to have the right people in our circle who truly loves God and is serious about their walk with Him but I also believe once your build safe boundaries and continue to reach out to the lost, broken, etc you won’t be affected.

        No problem at all sis! 🙂

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