We often depend on ourselves when all we need to do is depend on God for more grace and help. God knows our weaknesses, struggles, failures, pains and disappointments. He is our comforter, and ardently wants to help us by giving us all the grace that we need for this present life.
Our flesh and the distractions of this world deter us and imprison us in a world of self struggle and self dependence. We must struggle against sin, but not by our own power. Our struggle must be done with the help of the Holy Spirit. He is our helper and comforter, so we need to give Him His place in our lives in total and absolute surrender.