Let Go

Do not cling to toxic relationships. Do not cling to relationships that drain you and destroy you. Let go of bad relationships and learn to be friends with people that love you and support you.

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  1. Robert says:

    I know this kind of thing is very popular to say, but I’m glad God isn’t like that, otherwise He’d have let go of me a long time ago. Thankfully, while we were yet toxic, draining and bad sinners, Christ died for us!

    • laurabon says:

      Life is about choice. Some relationships can damage us greatly and lead to serious mental illness. I know people who have ended up dead or with mental illnesses as a result of wrong associations. The Bible told us not to even sit down and eat with evil people who call themselves brothers.

      We were also advised not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Jesus Himself never had intimate fellowship with evil people. The only bad person He allowed into His inner circle betrayed and sold Him. But life is about choice and everyone is free to live as he likes.

      Thanks a lot for contributing to this topic. Blessings πŸ’•

      • Robert says:

        I tend to agree with your comment, although Jesus wasn’t afraid to call all His closest followers “evil”. *All* have sinned and fall short of God’s glory, us included.

        Jesus wasn’t afraid to eat with tax collectors and prostitutes, so He was nicknamed “friend of sinners” and even accused of being a glutton and a drunkard. What a friend we have in Jesus!

        • laurabon says:

          Yes. What a friend we have in Jesus. A true believer will not hurt or harm others because he or she is broken. I know I cannot do that. But there are a lot of false people out there who will not hesitate to hurt others, people have committed suicide because of heartbreak. Once they are damaged they begin that cycle of damaging others. Why put up with that. Being broken is not a reason to break others. Like I said I know a lot of people who have died and been seriously mentally incapacitated by broken people who revenge subconsciously on innocent people. Why? Do you support that?

          • Robert says:

            Of course not. But I’m not so blinkered towards my own brokenness that I’m not aware that I do (unintentionally I hope) hurt and harm people. I’m a sinner for whom Christ needed to die. And sinners for whom Christ needed to die are forgivable, if not trustable.

            • laurabon says:

              Truly, we should forgive others but we should never become victims or be abused. We are all sinners and we are all lovable and forgivable, but we must guard our hearts jealousy. I know a lot of victims and I was also a victim until the Lord told me to be careful about being in close relationships with people who do not love me.

              Close intimate friendship is reserved for those who deserve it. I am not even talking about romantic relationships. Thanks a lot. I have really enjoyed the dialogue πŸ’•πŸ˜Š

        • laurabon says:

          If anyone breaks hearts without caring about the effects on the victim the person is being evil and bad – he or she is not being good but if he or she wants to change he or she can. It is better for you to give that person a chance to change than to be destroyed.

          • Robert says:

            Only God can and does change our evil hearts. We’re all naturally evil and we all need God’s forgiveness and transformation.

            • laurabon says:

              Yes. You are so right. We should also make effort to grow and mature mentally and emotionally. Those who don’t desire change will never pray for change and will never change.

              • Robert says:

                God can change desires and do the impossible. He did it for Saul of Tarsus, and He can do it for the most evil persecutors of the church today. Thanks for the discussion.

  2. PaperKutzs says:

    So true, life is too short

  3. laurabon says:

    Yes, life is too short. Blessings 😊

  4. Important advice!

  5. CG Thelen says:

    I pray for God’s wisdom in knowing when to let go when I am ministering to someone who is very broken. There comes a time when the relationship can be too toxic, a time when it will hurt or destroy. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we can’t take care of others who need help. Your post reminds us to be careful, that there is a time when we need to shed toxic relationships; a time to surround ourselves with people who can feed our depleted souls.

    • laurabon says:

      Thank you so much for the insightful response. Yes, there is simply a time to shed toxic relationships. The key is to minister and love from a safe boundary and also be led he Holy Spirit. Our inner circle must be like the inner circle of Jesus. The Lord Himself spoke to me and warned about letting people who do not love me and who wish to harm into my inner circle.

      This was after He had warned me not to travel to see someone that I felt very sorry for and wanted to help. I disobeyed His instruction, because I later had doubts and doubted if it was God that spoke to me. I was greatly harmed by that person during and the person later turned out to be a very bad person. He even boasted to me that he had done everything bad out there. I fell ill and the Lord appeared to me and rebuked me and reminded me that He had warned me not to travel to have any kind of association with that person.

      We learn everyday by God’s grace. We must be as wise as serpents and as innocent as dove. The only bad person that Jesus allowed into His inner circle betrayed Him and sold Him.

      Thank you so much once again for your contribution to this topic. Blessings

      • CG Thelen says:

        I am blessed to have an excellent therapist who has helped me learn the proper way to manage toxic relationships. I was pretty depleted when God brought my therapist into my life a couple years ago. I am much wiser now about toxic relationships and much more attuned to God’s leading. Yes, I too am learning, humbled each day by God’s grace.

        • laurabon says:

          Thank you so much, for the meaningful contribution to this topic – so very enlightening. Therapists are really good. I have studied and listened to the works of good therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists and it is amazing what I learned.

          I am so much more in control of my life now, when it comes to toxic relationships and I now protect myself against Narcissists, abusers, exploiters, invaders and all. I know how to identify them and I have learned not to be anybody’s victim so as to avoid being depleted and fulfill my destiny.

          God is so good – He knows when we need therapists and He knows how to give us what we need at the right time by His grace and mercy.

          Thank you so much, once again for the response. Blessings to you always πŸ˜ŠπŸ™

          • CG Thelen says:

            Exactly. We should not remain in a position of victim or rescuer with a physical or verbal abuser. Thanks so much for this dialogue. It is good to know someone else understands the dangers of toxic relationships.

            • laurabon says:

              Thank you so much, for the response. I have really enjoyed the dialogue and I am so glad that you connected with the message. Blessings πŸ’•πŸ˜Š

  6. Amen! Truly it is sis! So freeing to the heart, mind, soul & spirit. God bless you! Continue to keep up the great work for Christ our Savior! Blessings! <3

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