Overlook That Speck

over expectation kills relationships

And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? (Matthew 7:3 NKJV)

Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? “Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye (Matthew 7:4 – 7:5 NKJV)

The Scripture admonishes us against looking at speck in other peoples lives. We must learn how to mind our own business, control our tongues and stop all forms of negative communication – criticisms, backbiting and gossiping. They stain our garments and aura.

Stop looking at imperfections, weaknesses, flaws, faults and sins in other peoples lives. Judge and criticize yourself. The Bible says that if we judge ourselves we will not be judged by the Lord. There is only one judge and lawgiver – God. Instead of being negative and always criticizing, encourage and be positive towards others. You want to make others perfect and you expect perfection from them, yet you are not perfect.

I have come across people who constantly look at faults and flaws in others. It is as if they are incapable of seeing anything else but flaws. They are always sad and constantly fight because all they see is the negative. They are very sensitive and all they do is complain, and grumble about others. Such people keep everyone around them unhappy with their negative attitude. They seem oblivious of one fact themselves – that they are also not perfect. That is a very unbalanced and unhealthy way to live – positivity can be learned.

Over expectation kills relationships – love people the way they are. Everybody will not be mature in one day and a lot of people will never be spiritually mature here on earth -that is the uncomfortable and bitter truth.

Nobody wants to be around a negative critical person so it is better for us to focus on ourselves and judge ourselves instead of being negative towards others.

God loves us with our weaknesses so we must also love others with their weaknesses. Love must be unconditional – we must not expect people to be perfect before we can love them or love them completely. May God help us, empower us and enable us to understand peoples weakness and accept them with love and compassion.




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  1. I really enjoyed this because that was my prayer for today ;).

    • laurabon says:

      Thanks for the lovely response. Wow, the Holy Spirit is one and is moving in His Church. Your words have really blessed me. Blessings ❤️🙏

  2. Cindy Dawson says:

    God has been teaching me on this subject for the last year. We cannot influence anyone we are judging. Right on, Laura.

    • laurabon says:

      Thanks a lot for your contribution to this topic, and the words of wisdom, Cindy. We cannot influence anyone by judging. Blessings ❤️❤️❤️🙏

  3. Yes!😄❤

  4. Amen! Beautifully said!

  5. mistimaan says:

    Nice post

  6. Timothy Croy says:

    Laura, I value your posts greatly. I was wondering what your thoughts are on related posts at https://www.gotquestions.org/unloving-sinning.html and https://www.gotquestions.org/do-not-judge.html? I think your post may be referring to always encouraging others and not focusing on small sins, and if helping someone it must always be done in love and without hypocrisy.

    God bless you Laura for your love and dedication to our Lord.

    • laurabon says:

      Thank you so much for the response and the links. I have read the posts. The posts are so clear and thoroughly informative on the topic of judging others and telling people that they are sinning. I have shared the two posts on My Facebook page.

      Yes, my post is about encouraging others and overlooking offenses and hurts. Thanks for the prayer. God bless you always ❤️🙏

  7. shineb4 says:

    When your focus is on the Lord, it is impossible to focus on others flaws, so if you are worried about others than you are drifting from Christ! You cannot focus on 2 separate things; it’s impossible!

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